feat: bridge_self bot commands — status, thresholds, reset, health

Adds bot commands for the bridge_self provider so operators can inspect
and manage bridge health from chat: /status, /thresholds, /reset, /health.
Includes Jinja2 templates for both locales, seed data, capability slots,
and a handler that exposes pending deferred backlog plus per-counter
reset. Also adds .claude/skills/ for project-scoped graph-aware skills.

.claude/skills/refactor-safely.md

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+---
+name: Refactor Safely
+description: Plan and execute safe refactoring using dependency analysis
+---
+
+## Refactor Safely
+
+Use the knowledge graph to plan and execute refactoring with confidence.
+
+### Steps
+
+1. Use `refactor_tool` with mode="suggest" for community-driven refactoring suggestions.
+2. Use `refactor_tool` with mode="dead_code" to find unreferenced code.
+3. For renames, use `refactor_tool` with mode="rename" to preview all affected locations.
+4. Use `apply_refactor_tool` with the refactor_id to apply renames.
+5. After changes, run `detect_changes` to verify the refactoring impact.
+
+### Safety Checks
+
+- Always preview before applying (rename mode gives you an edit list).
+- Check `get_impact_radius` before major refactors.
+- Use `get_affected_flows` to ensure no critical paths are broken.
+- Run `find_large_functions` to identify decomposition targets.
+
+## Token Efficiency Rules
+- ALWAYS start with `get_minimal_context(task="<your task>")` before any other graph tool.
+- Use `detail_level="minimal"` on all calls. Only escalate to "standard" when minimal is insufficient.
+- Target: complete any review/debug/refactor task in ≤5 tool calls and ≤800 total output tokens.